The Healing Power of Allowing Multiple Truths

I recently returned from a family vacation, and the experience reminded me of both the complexity of being human and the healing power of allowing multiple truths.

Leading up to the trip, I felt excitement and anticipation. My mind was full of ideas about what the trip would be like and what I hoped it would be. At the same time, I also noticed anxiety about the unknown.

Would I become overwhelmed?
Would tension arise between family members?
Would I forget something important?
What unexpected problems might come up?

Before the trip had even begun, I was already experiencing a multitude of emotions — some seemingly in opposition to one another.

Then the judgmental voices in my mind began to appear:
“You should just be grateful for this opportunity.”
“Why are you worrying about such small things?”

As I noticed these harsh internalized thoughts, I also noticed the shame and inadequacy they carried with them.

And that led me to begin asking deeper questions:
Whose voice is this?
Where did these messages come from?
Are these thoughts actually rooted in my present experience, or are they echoes from the past playing themselves out in the present moment?

With greater awareness, I was able to begin separating what was truly relevant to the current moment from what may have been shaped by past experiences, conditioning, or internalized shame.

During the trip itself, I experienced many layers of emotion.

I deeply enjoyed spending time with my family — the people I love most and can most fully be myself around. I felt genuine gratitude for that, knowing not everyone has relationships that feel safe or connected.

At the same time, there were people everywhere. While I genuinely enjoy observing others and experiencing different cultures and ways of being, I also found myself becoming overstimulated and emotionally exhausted at times.

The constant noise, movement, conversations, and sensory input became overwhelming for my nervous system.

Sometimes this showed up as irritability. Things that normally would not bother me suddenly felt much harder to tolerate. At other times, I noticed a strong desire to retreat into solitude and quiet so I could regulate and reconnect with myself again.

None of these experiences canceled each other out.

They were all true at the same time.

And all of them were valid.

Our emotions are messengers. They are not inherently good or bad, right or wrong. They are simply information — signals from the body and mind about how we are experiencing the world, what we may need, and sometimes how present experiences may be interacting with past ones.

When we are disconnected from our emotional experience or unaware of what our body is communicating through emotions and sensations, we are more likely to become reactive or overwhelmed.

Rather than consciously responding to our experiences, we react from them.

One of my professors once said that if we continually push emotions down or “stuff them,” they eventually “come out sideways.”

The energy has to go somewhere.

When we are unaware of our emotions or do not allow ourselves space to process them, they often emerge indirectly — through irritability, disconnection, numbing, anxiety, resentment, or behaviors that later leave us feeling disconnected from ourselves.

So what do we do?

We begin by noticing.

This can look like taking small moments throughout the day to check in with yourself:

How am I feeling emotionally?
What sensations am I noticing in my body?
What might I be needing right now?
Am I hungry, thirsty, overstimulated, lonely, exhausted, needing connection, or needing rest?

Awareness creates space.

Once we become aware of what we are experiencing, we have more ability to consciously respond rather than simply react.

Sometimes giving ourselves exactly what we need in the moment may not be possible. In those moments, it can help to imagine what a loving parent would say to a child or what you would say to a close friend experiencing the same thing.

Maybe it sounds like:
“This is hard right now.”
“It makes sense that you feel overwhelmed.”
“You’ve had a lot of stimulation today.”
“You’re doing the best you can.”

And then, where possible, offering yourself care for the future:
“When we get back to the room, we’ll rest.”
“We’ll drink water.”
“We’ll take a quiet moment to regulate.”

This is where bringing in self-compassion becomes so important.

Self-compassion allows us to hold multiple truths without immediately collapsing into shame or self-judgment.

It allows us to acknowledge:
“I can be deeply grateful for this experience and still feel overwhelmed.”
“I can love the people around me and still need solitude.”
“I can enjoy something and still struggle within it.”

These experiences do not cancel each other out.

They are all part of the truth of being human.

Often, we are far harsher with ourselves than we would ever be with someone we love.

Imagine telling a friend who was feeling anxious and overwhelmed before a trip:
“You should just be grateful.”
“Stop worrying.”
“You shouldn’t feel this way.”

Most of us would never speak so harshly to someone we care about.

Yet many of us speak this way to ourselves every day.

What would happen if we began shifting that internal dialogue?

Not by lying to ourselves or pretending everything is okay, but by learning to speak to ourselves with honesty, understanding, gentleness, and compassion.

Healing often begins when we develop the mindful awareness and self-compassion needed to gently hold the fullness of our human experience.

Not by becoming less human —
but by learning to hold our humanity more gently.

A Gentle Reminder

If you find yourself holding conflicting emotions lately, you are not doing anything wrong.

You are human.

Multiple truths can exist at the same time.

You can feel grateful and overwhelmed.
Connected and exhausted.
Hopeful and uncertain.
Healing and still hurting.

Part of emotional wellness is learning to make space for the fullness of our experience without immediately judging ourselves for it.

And often, healing begins there.

In awareness.
In compassion.
In learning to respond to ourselves more gently.

With Love,

Sharon

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